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The Costs of Being Fat

I had a call with Scott Colby aka “The Abs Expert” last week. We talked about belly fat and his questions brought some interesting answers and the one that caught both our attention was my answer that had me listing out the “costs” of being fat or having belly fat. Not exactly monetary costs although there are some… but more along the “bigger picture” costs…

1. Being an EXAMPLE of health, fitness and nutrition for my kids: Don’t tell them, Show them! My children will never remember me at this weight. They will know me as someone who doesn’t over eat and a dad who always is ready to be active in their lives of sports activities. COST: stay fat and children see it as acceptable, they will lack discipline and true confidence of well being. I lose the opportunity of seeing them being all they can be if I don’t offer them the tools and ideals to emulate.

2. Staying True to your spouse: True? Yes I think the challenges of rich or poor, good times and bad all have a better chance of working themselves out if you are “the best you can be” in the areas of physical appearance and vitality. It is unfair even for one spouse to add on weight and then give up with no efforts at maintaining a “fit” appearance. Aside from getting ill and not living a long life possibly with your mate it often turns into 2 people letting themselves go which can cause issues with confidence, resentment, reclusive behavior and a list of  other side-effects in the areas of intimacy and sex. You cannot sit around waiting for the other to “get into shape” or to accept you as a fat person who is not at least willing to “try” to return to that fighting weight you were the day you got married. COST: huge relationship challenges and downsides if 1 or both partners get fat. Anger bubbles up and things happen that wouldn’t normally happen if you were tight, toned, fit and emotionally available to each other versus being stuck inside the clutches of yo-yo diet syndromes, nervous visits to the Doctor and wondering if things are going to work out. the mind can run away on you during insecurity.

3.  Your Real Career: If you ever wanted to land that job that didn’t feel like work, being in shape, fit and confident can sure assist with opportunity. It has taken me over 15 years to be doing something that doesn’t feel like work. Most of what I do today I would do for free if I did not need money. It’s not like playing Golf, Hockey or going to concerts for a living… but it is the closest I have ever come to that. Now I arrived here Fat. The bonus is that I realized that in order to really explode my business into a place where I work less and still earn a decent living I need to be an Athlete! The physical and mental health ideals I am shooting for will allow me to tap into the confidence, risk-taking ideas and language sets that are needed to complete my vision boards and bucket lists that include living an extraordinary life with my wife and 2 children. COST : This area here has cost me thousands of dollars as I “settled” many times for jobs that required only 30-40% of my attention span… I didn’t want the challenges as “fear” was close by all the time while I packed on another 5 pounds in the fat race. So my salary, bonuses or opportunities never seemed to add up to my true ability until recently. Yes my weight had a part in this.

Excuses Be GoneI feel that the 3 things I mention above can work together and be at their absolute strongest when in sync. If I give up one area so that I can get things going well in another it never seems to pan out. This myth of “its tuff to balance” is a paradigm in a sense… “We are what we think about all day long”…is one of the most profound quotes of our time and I am putting efforts in a little each day with plans, dreams, goals and self talk to go along with it… World class of course… and it’s working…at it’s own pace. It is not instant…. I am learning patience  and I am “causing” momentum and alot of my successes so far including some important breakthroughs have shown up because of my dedication to better nutrition and sticking to my fitness commitment. It starts on the inside.

What would your life look like today if you were that exact weight you knew you were born to be?

Obviously people who are in good shape all don’t have perfect careers and relationships…etc.. but living in the City of FAT or the Town of In-Activeness for a number of years… I would say drops your chances of living a life FULL ON! Make the shift! It is amazing once you begin to take the BIG BACK PACK of DENIAL off and refocus on “Possibilities”