It’s Synchronicity not Coincidence

Wayne Dyer

Wayne Dyer

I remember listening to Wayne Dyer years ago talk about Synchronicity versus Coincidence. What he spoke of was living with “higher awareness”.  Understanding that you are so called “in the zone” as sports people say… everything seems to come together… not just a couple of things but many things. I remember he pointed out that when you reach this level of “vibration” that people tend to gravitate towards you and you begin to “notice”  these things happening as if it was all planned out. The “Noticer” (you) begins to see things almost before they happen and as you get in tune with it you can almost affect or complete these instances to make sure they do happen.

Higher Awareness people know that these are NOT coincidences… rather that they are experiencing  Synchronicity.  It’s happened to me a number of times over the past 4 weeks… sometimes small things but they are there and I am open to them. Some of these things are happening to you now but many of us don’t notice them. As you do and feed off of them they begin to show up more and more.

My wife sent me my Horoscope today which reminded me of this path

AQUARIUS (January 20-February 18)

Getting into shape or maintaining the one you’ve got is easier than usual this month, thanks to the solar eclipse’s activation of your health zone. A new diet or fitness routine started just after the 11th has ‘success’ written all over it, and there’s a good chance it will become part of your life in the long term! Now that your ruler Uranus has just entered a brand new sign (trailblazing Aries), after having been in Pisces for the last six years, you’re in the throes of redefining yourself on other levels as well.

Yes I am redefining, renovating and open to all that is mine. I will write about more synchronicity moments as they unfold.

My Daughter, The Unstoppable!

Today has been another day where I went beyond where I expected to be with fitness and ended off with a special opportunity for me to share some positive talk with my 8 year old daughter.

Kettleworx DVDMy son and I went to the basement to do our Day 2 of the 100 Push Ups Challenge. He logs us in on my iPhone App and we ended up at 68 total push ups after 5 sets. Now my wife had asked if I would join her for a “Kettle Bell” workout. I said sure since we have the (dusty) “KettleWorx” DVD set and figured some weights would be good. Even the kids joined in a little but soon got tired. Both my wife and I were hanging on for dear life towards the end… What a sweat. Kettleworx is a 6 week program and it appears my wife wants to go at it …so this is yet another chance to get a different type of exercise in the mix for me. Of course working with someone else always adds that extra drive/accountability too.

After this was over and the kids were sent to bed my daughter came back downstairs to ask if she could talk to me about something…she was upset. She told me some girls were bullying her or more like not including her for a portion of their school trip. This has gone on before of course at her age various friends trade secrets & friendships on a weekly basis. So I brought her close to me and asked her if she scored good marks in school? Yes she said…then I asked her if she was good at Piano, Gymnastics and listened to her parents (usually) and she said yes again.. I continued to point out her many strong points and that we (her family) were her friends. These girls just chose to do this to her just for today…I also mentioned that being alone was okay sometimes, that she didn’t always have to have a girlfriend beside her. I ended off by asking her what they could have possibly been talking about if she was good at so many things, had us as her friends and was a confident 8 year old girl?  She just looked straight ahead…I followed that up with “it doesn’t really matter”

Unstoppable Me - Wayne Dyer - Childrens Book

After this… I was almost blown away when she asked if we could make a little “CARD” for her to carry around that she could write on that she was Unstoppable ! I guess I must have mentioned something in passing about my Goal setting card I had made up I am not sure. I know where she got the Unstoppable…it is from a Wayne Dyer book written for kids called Unstoppable Me!: 10 Ways to Soar Through Life We have this book and the others he has done for children. I even have this book as an APP on my iPhone.

So since I just did goal setting the other night for myself on one of these cards I brought my daughter to up to my office and we read over some parts of the book to help her get an idea what she would write on her card before I laminated it. It was pretty cool to see her mood and demeanor transform right there while “creativity” happened. A tool for her to use or maybe this was just her first lesson in “self talk” and positive programming?

This same path in which my father introduced me to, started with an introduction to the Godfather of Motivation… Dr. Wayne Dyer. This didn’t happen until I was about 20…but boy his books have changed my life forever. My daughter picked something out of the children’s book and then asked what “persistance” was since it was one of the chapters. I showed her this blog and explained that just last night I wrote about Persisting. I gave her an example of herself doing this and here is what she came up with for her carry around positive card.

The Unstoppable Me!

My 8 Year Old Daughter’s Goal Card


I Will Persist Until I Succeed!

I Will Persist Until I Succeed….It’s actually pretty powerful just to type those words. Say it out-loud..“I Will Persist Until I Succeed”.


My inner drive is very high right now as I type this for a number of reasons. The consistent daily audio feed of this CD Program over and over is “re-programming” my thinking patterns.  What they talk about is visualization training and altering the language being used.

Let’s be real…my previous sloth type behavior, eating late at night for no reason and avoiding things that need to be done is still trying to hang on…so bad, although it’s not doing well. My positive self talk, the sharing with others about my new path/mission, this blog and the goals I’ve written and taken action on are flooding over my old patterns. What I mean is that I am saying and thinking these “thoughts” so much now that I am starting to believe them…and “belief” causes action.

This seems to be working each day. In less than 21 days I have re-programmed my thinking in many areas and it has already started to flow to some people in my circle. We’re not talking miracles yet… but the old “positive attitude muscles” are coming back. They… (Determination and Persistence) were in serious hibernation and seem more than happy to come out and play this game.

Wayne Dyer used to say “Banish the Doubt”  The doubt of what we are truly capable of. Most of us never realize the power that we have accessWayne Dyer to if we are open to it. I have had this story that “balancing family, relationships, business, weight and more is tough” Is it? Really? How hard have I really tried and how much dedication have I put into each of these areas? Have I read all the books I can on each subject? Taken courses? Sought help and coaching in every area? WHY NOT. It is all available if I want to… isn’t it? Doubt and Fear are present for sure…but so is “Greatness” I have a choice. Is that not what I should be teaching my children? Then surely I can try!

Greatest Secret In The WorldI remember reading a book my father gave me by Og Mandino called “The Greatest Secret In The World”. There are 10 scrolls inside the book that are to be read for 30 days each, 3 times per day. The words chosen in these scrolls are so powerful to read. Here are a couple of my favourite parts from the scroll marked III

I will persist until I succeed.

I was not delivered unto this world in defeat, nor does failure course in my veins. I am not a sheep waiting to be prodded by my shepherd. I am a lion and I refuse to talk, to walk, to sleep with the sheep. I will hear not those who weep and complain, for their disease is contagious. Let them join the sheep. The slaughterhouse of failure is not my destiny.”

Imagine reading this in the morning when you wake up, then another blast after lunch and finally reading it out loud before you fall asleep?

I will never consider defeat and I will remove from my vocabulary such words and phrases as quit, cannot, unable, impossible, out of the question, improbable, failure, unworkable, hopeless, and retreat; for they are the words of fools. I will avoid despair but if this disease of the mind should infect me then I will work on in despair. I will toil and I will endure. I will ignore the obstacles at my feet and keep mine eyes on the goals above my head, for I know that where dry desert ends, green grass grows.

I will persist until I succeed.”

If you want to read the entire scroll 3 online go here and here is the book on Google Books

I am definitely going to be revisiting my audio version of these scrolls for sure. The power of programming habits with these scrolls is hardcore and can turn someone’s life around if they “go for it” . I will also be coming back to other scrolls as their “theme” applies to my actions, missions and goals on this journey.

Today was a great day. I helped someone, did a 25 minute bike ride, ate good foods and I am about to write some goals in BIG FORMAT in my office before I go to bed. Tomorrow is Day 2 on my 100 Push Ups Challenge.

Thinking Positive as an Attitude Abstract Concept

How to Kick Start Positive Self Talk

The voice or committee inside your head can really steer the ship into crazy waters sometimes. Anytime I allow thoughts of how many things I have to do, which payments are coming out of my bank account and 15 other things from my kids to work… Anxiety starts to flow into my bloodstream. Now this can go on for days, weeks, months and years… if you allow it to. Medication? Not for me… seems like a band-aid solution.

So how do we inject the positive self talk?

1. Time Management is one foot out of the “negative quicksand”. I took a course years ago along with various other books and ideas on getting the LIST out of your head and on to paper. Evenings are the best times for this purging. Take out a day-timer, journal or grab a sheet from the printer and start to write down all of your TO-DO List. Make a business list and a personal list. Set the list out for tomorrow and this will allow for the rest of your evening to be more clear and you will feel better. The voices do get quieter.

Get Tough !2. Book or Audio Book – What goes in must come out right? Put down the People Magazine or Newspaper and get something inspirational in your hands/ears. I started this audio program two weeks ago called “177 Mental Toughness Secrets of the World Class“. It’s turned my head upside down in so many ways for the better. WOW. I am eating better, made it to the gym, lost a couple of pounds, started this blog, wrote down some goals and my step out the door in the morning is much more enjoyable.

Listening to this program everyday has challenged the “winner” inside of me to wake up, get out of bed and get into the drivers seat… bumping out the “old me” who was basically dying. My positive self-talk is gaining momentum and it is spilling out into other areas of my life that is in need of a renovation.