Today has been another day where I went beyond where I expected to be with fitness and ended off with a special opportunity for me to share some positive talk with my 8 year old daughter.
My son and I went to the basement to do our Day 2 of the 100 Push Ups Challenge. He logs us in on my iPhone App and we ended up at 68 total push ups after 5 sets. Now my wife had asked if I would join her for a “Kettle Bell” workout. I said sure since we have the (dusty) “KettleWorx” DVD set and figured some weights would be good. Even the kids joined in a little but soon got tired. Both my wife and I were hanging on for dear life towards the end… What a sweat. Kettleworx is a 6 week program and it appears my wife wants to go at it …so this is yet another chance to get a different type of exercise in the mix for me. Of course working with someone else always adds that extra drive/accountability too.
After this was over and the kids were sent to bed my daughter came back downstairs to ask if she could talk to me about something…she was upset. She told me some girls were bullying her or more like not including her for a portion of their school trip. This has gone on before of course at her age various friends trade secrets & friendships on a weekly basis. So I brought her close to me and asked her if she scored good marks in school? Yes she said…then I asked her if she was good at Piano, Gymnastics and listened to her parents (usually) and she said yes again.. I continued to point out her many strong points and that we (her family) were her friends. These girls just chose to do this to her just for today…I also mentioned that being alone was okay sometimes, that she didn’t always have to have a girlfriend beside her. I ended off by asking her what they could have possibly been talking about if she was good at so many things, had us as her friends and was a confident 8 year old girl? She just looked straight ahead…I followed that up with “it doesn’t really matter”
After this… I was almost blown away when she asked if we could make a little “CARD” for her to carry around that she could write on that she was Unstoppable ! I guess I must have mentioned something in passing about my Goal setting card I had made up I am not sure. I know where she got the Unstoppable…it is from a Wayne Dyer book written for kids called Unstoppable Me!: 10 Ways to Soar Through Life We have this book and the others he has done for children. I even have this book as an APP on my iPhone.
So since I just did goal setting the other night for myself on one of these cards I brought my daughter to up to my office and we read over some parts of the book to help her get an idea what she would write on her card before I laminated it. It was pretty cool to see her mood and demeanor transform right there while “creativity” happened. A tool for her to use or maybe this was just her first lesson in “self talk” and positive programming?
This same path in which my father introduced me to, started with an introduction to the Godfather of Motivation… Dr. Wayne Dyer. This didn’t happen until I was about 20…but boy his books have changed my life forever. My daughter picked something out of the children’s book and then asked what “persistance” was since it was one of the chapters. I showed her this blog and explained that just last night I wrote about Persisting. I gave her an example of herself doing this and here is what she came up with for her carry around positive card.