Sugars | No Sugar Diet

No Sugar Tonight!

SugarsBeing a small part of the fitness and health communities online either in blogs, facebook or twitter can help out for sure. I jumped on a small group challenge last week to keep sugar consumption to 15 grams per day. Interesting…what this did for me was had me look at everything to see of course how many grams of sugar I was taking in. Cream in my coffee which is on the “quit list” someday… actually has 1 gram of sugar per serving. I’ve been eating walnuts on my salads and a few handfuls of almonds per day. Something else unrelated to this challenge  I have been eating less meat… not even sure why but I started putting 2-3 eggs on top of my salad instead of chicken breast. I am not cutting it out…but down abit… kind of testing how I feel etc..

So how did I make out over a 7 day period with only 15 grams of sugar per day?

5 POUNDS CAME OFF instead of my usual 1.5-2 per week that I have been averaging for the past 6-7 weeks. Maybe the extra 3 pounds melted off because I stuck to this “low sugar” menu. I still did use a few sweeteners which happens to be this weeks challenge…which I am taking on of course.  Check out the Abs Expert on his Fan page here.

You have to take these little challenges on. You have to push yourself. Tell people what you are doing… put it out there ! It’s working for me… not perfect, but working and it feels great!

Fat | Being Fat

The Costs of Being Fat

I had a call with Scott Colby aka “The Abs Expert” last week. We talked about belly fat and his questions brought some interesting answers and the one that caught both our attention was my answer that had me listing out the “costs” of being fat or having belly fat. Not exactly monetary costs although there are some… but more along the “bigger picture” costs…

1. Being an EXAMPLE of health, fitness and nutrition for my kids: Don’t tell them, Show them! My children will never remember me at this weight. They will know me as someone who doesn’t over eat and a dad who always is ready to be active in their lives of sports activities. COST: stay fat and children see it as acceptable, they will lack discipline and true confidence of well being. I lose the opportunity of seeing them being all they can be if I don’t offer them the tools and ideals to emulate.

2. Staying True to your spouse: True? Yes I think the challenges of rich or poor, good times and bad all have a better chance of working themselves out if you are “the best you can be” in the areas of physical appearance and vitality. It is unfair even for one spouse to add on weight and then give up with no efforts at maintaining a “fit” appearance. Aside from getting ill and not living a long life possibly with your mate it often turns into 2 people letting themselves go which can cause issues with confidence, resentment, reclusive behavior and a list of  other side-effects in the areas of intimacy and sex. You cannot sit around waiting for the other to “get into shape” or to accept you as a fat person who is not at least willing to “try” to return to that fighting weight you were the day you got married. COST: huge relationship challenges and downsides if 1 or both partners get fat. Anger bubbles up and things happen that wouldn’t normally happen if you were tight, toned, fit and emotionally available to each other versus being stuck inside the clutches of yo-yo diet syndromes, nervous visits to the Doctor and wondering if things are going to work out. the mind can run away on you during insecurity.

3.  Your Real Career: If you ever wanted to land that job that didn’t feel like work, being in shape, fit and confident can sure assist with opportunity. It has taken me over 15 years to be doing something that doesn’t feel like work. Most of what I do today I would do for free if I did not need money. It’s not like playing Golf, Hockey or going to concerts for a living… but it is the closest I have ever come to that. Now I arrived here Fat. The bonus is that I realized that in order to really explode my business into a place where I work less and still earn a decent living I need to be an Athlete! The physical and mental health ideals I am shooting for will allow me to tap into the confidence, risk-taking ideas and language sets that are needed to complete my vision boards and bucket lists that include living an extraordinary life with my wife and 2 children. COST : This area here has cost me thousands of dollars as I “settled” many times for jobs that required only 30-40% of my attention span… I didn’t want the challenges as “fear” was close by all the time while I packed on another 5 pounds in the fat race. So my salary, bonuses or opportunities never seemed to add up to my true ability until recently. Yes my weight had a part in this.

Excuses Be GoneI feel that the 3 things I mention above can work together and be at their absolute strongest when in sync. If I give up one area so that I can get things going well in another it never seems to pan out. This myth of “its tuff to balance” is a paradigm in a sense… “We are what we think about all day long”…is one of the most profound quotes of our time and I am putting efforts in a little each day with plans, dreams, goals and self talk to go along with it… World class of course… and it’s working…at it’s own pace. It is not instant…. I am learning patience  and I am “causing” momentum and alot of my successes so far including some important breakthroughs have shown up because of my dedication to better nutrition and sticking to my fitness commitment. It starts on the inside.

What would your life look like today if you were that exact weight you knew you were born to be?

Obviously people who are in good shape all don’t have perfect careers and relationships…etc.. but living in the City of FAT or the Town of In-Activeness for a number of years… I would say drops your chances of living a life FULL ON! Make the shift! It is amazing once you begin to take the BIG BACK PACK of DENIAL off and refocus on “Possibilities”

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It’s Synchronicity not Coincidence

Wayne Dyer

Wayne Dyer

I remember listening to Wayne Dyer years ago talk about Synchronicity versus Coincidence. What he spoke of was living with “higher awareness”.  Understanding that you are so called “in the zone” as sports people say… everything seems to come together… not just a couple of things but many things. I remember he pointed out that when you reach this level of “vibration” that people tend to gravitate towards you and you begin to “notice”  these things happening as if it was all planned out. The “Noticer” (you) begins to see things almost before they happen and as you get in tune with it you can almost affect or complete these instances to make sure they do happen.

Higher Awareness people know that these are NOT coincidences… rather that they are experiencing  Synchronicity.  It’s happened to me a number of times over the past 4 weeks… sometimes small things but they are there and I am open to them. Some of these things are happening to you now but many of us don’t notice them. As you do and feed off of them they begin to show up more and more.

My wife sent me my Horoscope today which reminded me of this path

AQUARIUS (January 20-February 18)

Getting into shape or maintaining the one you’ve got is easier than usual this month, thanks to the solar eclipse’s activation of your health zone. A new diet or fitness routine started just after the 11th has ‘success’ written all over it, and there’s a good chance it will become part of your life in the long term! Now that your ruler Uranus has just entered a brand new sign (trailblazing Aries), after having been in Pisces for the last six years, you’re in the throes of redefining yourself on other levels as well.

Yes I am redefining, renovating and open to all that is mine. I will write about more synchronicity moments as they unfold.

Excuses not to do things

Maybe You Are Just Making Excuses

It’s one thing to see someone else in denial that you love. You want to help them, fix them and make things better. What about you? What about leading by example. I’ve studied self development on and off for 20 years. My father was doing it for as long as I can remember. So I was lucky to pick up this habit. Plus moving into a career in Sales I was told I needed a positive attitude, I needed to set goals, repetition is the mother of skill they told me…. from Tony Robbins to Wayne Dyer and all kinds of others in-between… I immersed myself at times with these messages and teachers… and many situations were overcome with confidence that spilled over from this connection to these books, seminars and CD programs.

Well stopping that connection to those activities is like stopping going to the gym or eating properly… its a slow but steady slide back to negative thoughts and average behaviors. These last 4 weeks I jumped off the deep end into the pool of “Anythings Possible” again and it has been beyond refreshing.

For some people who struggle in life and don’t have the tools or were never even shown “the way” as I was it can be pretty tough unless they are vigilant in their search for “breakthroughs”. Now for myself, I know what works and have experienced success with coaching and mental toughness many times but somehow I got a little lost over the past 5-7 years. Knowing what to do and not doing it is almost insanity, major denial and living a life of excuses.

So I have a couple of CD programs I carry with me now from my home office to the car and I am listening non stop…. like a sponge, I am soaking it all in. I am speaking a different language now in my head and out loud. I am trying to help others as I help myself. There is something bigger here for me and I deserve it as do those around me. I’ve been goal setting and even dug out a Michael Jordan book that was bought for me like 4 years ago. Although I am not a sports nut…I do like most sports and recently with my son playing hockey and soccer I am taking on more interest and it feels good. This is the life I was meant to live.

Athletes like Michael Jordan, Wayne Gretzky and Bobby Orr I love to read about… their Drive, Commitment and Determination to succeed at winning or setting records in their field. wow! It makes me want to run and humbles me largely in the “effort dept”. I started watching Michael Jordan videos on youtube one night last week and got lost for 45 minutes. Why didn’t I watch him more when he played? I couldn’t believe what I was seeing… This is the type of motivation I like… it challenges me mentally. Makes me want to push and explore my limits/beliefs as a person in the areas of being an athlete, as a father, as a husband, brother and friend. At 40 I may not be going into professional sports anytime soon… but what is stopping me from putting the world-class efforts into the areas I listed in the previous sentence? What would my/your life look like if I/we practiced like Jordan and were as dedicated as Terry Fox to being in shape and and living life FULL OUT !!!!

Muskoka Vacation

Dedication on Vacation

On the road and out of town for about 4 days I am sticking to my program. Sure I did some planning but most of all the drive to keep my goals of fitness in check are most important. Kettle Bells are easy to travel with so I threw a couple in the trunk along with 2 of my KettleWorx DVD’s and my trusty iPhone App for the 100 Push-ups Challenge of course was easy.

Golf on Vacation

Grandview Golf Club, Huntsville, ON

So yesterday I did my sets of push-ups for a total of 98 and this morning I did a Core KettleWorx session in the basement of my uncle’s house using my laptops DVD player. Then for some bonus activity I went golfing tonight for 9 holes. Tomorrow is push ups day again with some swimming in the pool here since they are calling for a super hot day.

Although I have had a few desserts I was able to make it through a dinner party with very low carb intake by not hanging around the food area. Over indulging in food and no workouts can equal coming home from even a short vacation a few pounds heavier and possibly feeling down. My goal was to keep the motivation flowing and the overall goals in check.

Today I was in the car for over an hour and stopped at a grocery store because the “chip wagons” were starting to look good and alone in the car was dangerous for me in the past. So at the grocery store stop I grabbed a small bag of nuts and some sardines. I actually grabbed a couple extras and some plastic forks thinking of future emergencies.

What have you done on vacation that worked for sticking close to your goals?